tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post7321725912549393851..comments2023-11-03T03:14:43.155-07:00Comments on Pseudo's Spot: Spin Cycle: 2009 “Resolutions” and PositivialityPseudohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-19441382231737077942009-01-04T07:25:00.000-08:002009-01-04T07:25:00.000-08:00Glad I stumbled onto your blog. I like your outloo...Glad I stumbled onto your blog. I like your outlook - good luck with your intentions.<BR/><BR/>For what it's worth, I believe we can never really change other people - only ourselves.<BR/><BR/>I especially admire people who can come up with words like positiviality.Mary Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14416798580398814009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-32860416776110394662009-01-03T16:16:00.000-08:002009-01-03T16:16:00.000-08:00I think your 2009 goals are achievable. I'll check...I think your 2009 goals are achievable. I'll check back to see how you're doing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-72888083952027107922009-01-03T10:02:00.000-08:002009-01-03T10:02:00.000-08:00I, too, like your monthly goals. About your mom, y...I, too, like your monthly goals. About your mom, you might try one of Tony Robbins' old tricks. It's actually kind of fun too, if not a little wicked . . . As soon as your mom starts bashing people, clap your hands twice loudly. She'll be startled and ask what that was about, and you just change the subject and talk about something positive. When she starts in again, clap your hands twice loudly. She'll be stopped in her tracks again, and you can start in on another subject. <BR/><BR/>What happens is that her habit is interrupted and she must stop and think about something other than the negative hurling.<BR/><BR/>It really does work.<BR/><BR/>Happy new year.<BR/><BR/>KJ<BR/>http://fragrantliar.blogspot.comFragrant Liarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09452052210826471034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-20895329654282569952009-01-02T11:16:00.000-08:002009-01-02T11:16:00.000-08:00Happy, Happy New Year. You'll accomplish each goal...Happy, Happy New Year. You'll accomplish each goal, I'm sure of it.<BR/><BR/>As for your mom, I wish we all had the ability to easily eliminate toxic personalities from our lives. I suppose in the end it's more about us and the choices we make than it is about them. It takes conviction to stand up to a parent, no matter how old we are. Good for you.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06086740613832715808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-41340735060855424892009-01-02T09:58:00.000-08:002009-01-02T09:58:00.000-08:00Happy New Year to and to your family and I admire ...Happy New Year to and to your family and I admire these goals for sure. I love making goals for myself and checking them off of my to do list. I might have been a good teacher? :)Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18183043671142742318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-19721822025629683232009-01-02T09:07:00.000-08:002009-01-02T09:07:00.000-08:00Hubby and I joke that the reason we butt heads wit...Hubby and I joke that the reason we butt heads with his parents is that we want them to behave the way we think is best and they feel the same way about us. We have finally learned we can't get them to do anything. Good luck with your mom. I love your goals. I like to do that as well. Just set smaller ones for myself. I think I'll copy you!Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17480046958714954128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-38295900522723983892009-01-02T07:59:00.000-08:002009-01-02T07:59:00.000-08:00qtpie - draining is the right word alright. Happy...qtpie - draining is the right word alright. Happy New Year and let's both try to no let others drain us.<BR/><BR/>B - I like your use of the word liberating. That's how I felt when I finally told my mom no too.Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-18240913967783440212009-01-02T05:34:00.000-08:002009-01-02T05:34:00.000-08:00The power of positivity is not to be underestimate...The power of positivity is not to be underestimated! You should give your mom my mom's number and they could compare nasty notes (no disrespect to your mother). I was mom's dumping ground for a long time, but part of my healing process was forgiving her and then being very deliberate in putting my hand up to stop her. It was quite liberating!<BR/><BR/>I very much like the one month at a time idea.Just Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13821854495030177925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-85865206941435721322009-01-02T04:48:00.000-08:002009-01-02T04:48:00.000-08:00You have great resolutions. As for the negativity...You have great resolutions. As for the negativity of your mom (or anyone else for that matter) I feel your pain. It is draining to have to listen to someone be miserable and down all the time. Do whatever it takes to stay up and 2009 will be fantastic!qtpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01786328909093612786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-46152078868904450692009-01-01T22:18:00.000-08:002009-01-01T22:18:00.000-08:00GF - yes, one step at a time sounds like it would ...GF - yes, one step at a time sounds like it would work best for me. <BR/><BR/>VM - sometimes it's with the help of the martini ; -)<BR/><BR/>QB - you are at the age where fake cell phone connection is kind of appropriate. me? ah, well...<BR/><BR/>casey - thank-you for the encouraging words.<BR/><BR/>Marinka - O my. I got visited by NYC today. Thanks for stopping by, I have to say, I'm a little star struck.<BR/><BR/>Laura - i love the idea of the goal finding you i wish i thought of it myself. <BR/><BR/>Sprite's Keeper - thank-you again for hosting the spin cycle.<BR/><BR/>SMB - yep, yep and yep. Isn't it silly my mom can get me, at 51, to feel like a girl struggling with mother issues.Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-83005379430436281482009-01-01T21:12:00.000-08:002009-01-01T21:12:00.000-08:00At 81, it's doubtful that you can get your mom to ...At 81, it's doubtful that you can get your mom to change. All you can do is change how you react to her and I for one had to smile at the visual of you acting like you have cell trouble. A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do, right?<BR/><BR/>Great goals and I like the one month at a time thing a lot. <BR/><BR/>Happy New Year!Smart Mouth Broadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12157189992200894945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-18170060121447294382009-01-01T19:36:00.000-08:002009-01-01T19:36:00.000-08:00I can't think of any advice for your mom since you...I can't think of any advice for your mom since your way of handling it is already the best I've read. When they're that age, there's NOTHING you can do to change them or their ways. So blaming the cell phone service is perfect and semi-true!<BR/>Great resolutions, Pseudo. Especially after all you've been through, your positivity is something I need to resolve to have more of.<BR/>You're linked and Happy New Year! (I didn't see the email until tonight since I was blocked from it today. Sorry!)Sprite's Keeperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00790341033920919000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-52143632886996021972009-01-01T17:39:00.000-08:002009-01-01T17:39:00.000-08:00I didn't realize that what I have been doing every...I didn't realize that what I have been doing every morning is coffee mediation. That makes me feel so much better about my ritual. <BR/><BR/>Getting your mother to stop bitching? Are you kidding? That's probably what she lives for. Think of it as her coffee meditation.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with the goal-setting and goal-keeping. I'll be happy walking into a goal unbeknownst to me. Yes, I like that idea. A goal that finds me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-69113667075601086022009-01-01T17:08:00.000-08:002009-01-01T17:08:00.000-08:00Fantastic goals and I liked how you broke it up in...Fantastic goals and I liked how you broke it up into manageable steps for January.<BR/><BR/>Good luck!Marinkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16489592695993949578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-28539069508504931682009-01-01T16:56:00.000-08:002009-01-01T16:56:00.000-08:00I'm with Goodfather, the monthly goal is such a gr...I'm with Goodfather, the monthly goal is such a great idea. I also love that you're trying to rise above your mom's negativity and stay positive. I have a hard time doing this when my mom is being negative since I try so hard to keep it neutral. You're right though, you need to stay positive and someone bringing you down just plain sucks. Happy New Year, I hope this is a good one!Caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13477976300026766137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-4296671580661733752009-01-01T16:49:00.000-08:002009-01-01T16:49:00.000-08:00Those are some good goals. I discovered the static...Those are some good goals. I discovered the static-on-th-phone trick when I started college and I've been using it when my mom gets picky ever since. It's great!Queen Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11360614009515432561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-62927879014716624822009-01-01T16:18:00.000-08:002009-01-01T16:18:00.000-08:00Happy, happy new year. I LOVE your goals. You c...Happy, happy new year. I LOVE your goals. You can do it!!Vodka Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04734323418017847775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-83198893322870419452009-01-01T16:12:00.000-08:002009-01-01T16:12:00.000-08:00Happy New Year! I haven't read Thistle's post yet...Happy New Year! I haven't read Thistle's post yet, but I love the idea of a monthly goal. So much easier than doing trying to maintain 58 resolutions simultaneously. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-25280262547883345192009-01-01T15:34:00.000-08:002009-01-01T15:34:00.000-08:00kristan -learn to stick up for yourself and when t...kristan -learn to stick up for yourself and when to put on armor early. You won't regret it.<BR/><BR/>Beth- Thank-you for shairng your mum. I have a couple freinds with moms they share here. I use them as studies for the kind of grandma i hope to be someday.<BR/><BR/>24 - I think you are tremendously strong.Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-36885012360401021212009-01-01T13:11:00.000-08:002009-01-01T13:11:00.000-08:00I have no advice on your mom. I do think your res...I have no advice on your mom. I do think your resolutions are admirable. I also think you are a VERY strong person and can accomplish whatever you set out to!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-91583038999511622272009-01-01T13:03:00.000-08:002009-01-01T13:03:00.000-08:00There are some things you just can't fix (about yo...There are some things you just can't fix (about your mom). And for some people, the more miserable, the better.<BR/><BR/>I feel for you. It isn't easy dealing with folks who want to be unhappy (and want others to feel that way, too).<BR/><BR/>My mother is great! And I'm willing to share. :)Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06999741671175495307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-8972763691921230042009-01-01T12:19:00.000-08:002009-01-01T12:19:00.000-08:00Eh, to be honest, I feel like at 81, people are pr...Eh, to be honest, I feel like at 81, people are pretty unchangeable. (Maybe even at 18?!) Or at least, change can't be forced/coerced. I think you're better off doing what you need to do to take care of yourself. If everyone did what you're doing -- i.e., refused to listen to her meanness -- then she'd have no one to talk to about it and maybe THEN realize why.<BR/><BR/>I too am trying not to let other people's negativity seep into me. I've always been a sponge, so that's hard, but I think you're right: if I can achieve it, it will be one of the best things I've ever done for myself.<BR/><BR/>So good luck to both of us!Kristanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771013578685419826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-88663506947102094842009-01-01T11:43:00.000-08:002009-01-01T11:43:00.000-08:00thistle - great visual of corroded containers lea...thistle - great visual of corroded containers leaking bitterness. I try my best with her. She is also a 30 year cancer survivor and I figure some of that meanness got her through in its own way. And I will edit Brandy;s credit on our goal setting.<BR/><BR/>Jack - Happy New year! I find it interesting that a lot of the friends I have made on the internet have moms from a similar mold. Because in real life, many of my friends have lovely mothers. They love taking their grandkids and are gracious and sweet and supportive. I feel so validated and not alone in this now.<BR/><BR/>Mama Dawg - right back at you!Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-30228777306892689432009-01-01T11:23:00.000-08:002009-01-01T11:23:00.000-08:00All very reasonable resolutions. I wish you well! ...All very reasonable resolutions. I wish you well! Happy New Year!Mama Dawghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16056327117924455147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-57983960858215063122009-01-01T11:22:00.000-08:002009-01-01T11:22:00.000-08:00I love your goals for 2009! I was going to make a...I love your goals for 2009! I was going to make a crack about us having the same mother but I have been beaten to it by some other commenters that see the same traits in their own Moms... <BR/><BR/>Looking forward to reading many more beautiful posts in 2009!Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10694572749056669250noreply@blogger.com