tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post8170227107260244757..comments2023-11-03T03:14:43.155-07:00Comments on Pseudo's Spot: Spin Cycle: Guilt TrippinPseudohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-2294563001818694482009-01-10T07:21:00.000-08:002009-01-10T07:21:00.000-08:00Your son ssound like an old soul. Tessa -I, too, ...Your son ssound like an old soul. Tessa -I, too, took awhile to get to where I did not care what others thought and lived my life for me.<BR/><BR/>I think the bullying is worse in a way these days because a lot of what teens think is cool or popular is based on media hype - think Paris Hilton (expensive crap/ sexually active/ superficial).Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-84893252871976514812009-01-10T07:13:00.000-08:002009-01-10T07:13:00.000-08:00Great post, Pseudonymous. Amazing the lengths we w...Great post, Pseudonymous. Amazing the lengths we went to as kids, just to fit in. Sometimes I think it never changes, especially when I read some of the stuff about mean girls and high school bullies, but then I remember #1 Son. He revelled in being different and gathered all the weirdos in his school into a force to be reckoned with. I asked him once, after he came out, whether he was getting any shit at school and his answer was "Nah, they don't bother me, because they know I don't give a rat's ass what they think." It took me 50 years to reach the happy state of not giving a rat's ass ...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-74188938011700590232009-01-10T06:54:00.000-08:002009-01-10T06:54:00.000-08:00Tiffany - Did not mean to stoep on the only child ...Tiffany - Did not mean to stoep on the only child toes. Sorry if I did.Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-6773422753836841302009-01-09T23:36:00.000-08:002009-01-09T23:36:00.000-08:00What a tough place to be. It always shocks me how...What a tough place to be. <BR/><BR/>It always shocks me how mean girls can be to one another (even though I am one!) Boys seem to just fight it out. We women can take cruel to a whole new level.<BR/><BR/>I think all of us have been one of the girls in your story. <BR/><BR/>I found it interesting that you mentioned Sheryl was an "only child" as though it explained why she was spoiled and self-indulged, as though it was a given. (Probably because I am raising an only child.)<BR/><BR/>Your writing made me feel like I was right there, thanks for sharing.Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07635883243058872110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-11243406449708017342009-01-09T19:36:00.000-08:002009-01-09T19:36:00.000-08:00Rachel - thanks, my heart kind of ached for my 12 ...Rachel - thanks, my heart kind of ached for my 12 year old self when I wrote this.<BR/><BR/>egan - so right, mine has been far from perfect, but does keep getting more settled.<BR/><BR/>heinious - thanks for stopping by, I really liked you spin.<BR/><BR/>Keely - you have a very cool icon.<BR/><BR/>Casey - childhood is so much harder and much less innocent than we all like to think. my kis are now 19 and 16 and I actually am enjoying these ages a lot more than I thought I would.Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-21059521435632241292009-01-09T18:48:00.000-08:002009-01-09T18:48:00.000-08:00Great post. I get how you were afraid to speak up ...Great post. I get how you were afraid to speak up because you wanted to be accepted too. Childhood is so hard when it's supposed to be innocent. Like you, I always befriended the ostracized kids when I was working at a high school.Caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13477976300026766137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-79506667456102885472009-01-09T18:04:00.000-08:002009-01-09T18:04:00.000-08:00Wow. Visiting from Sprite's Keeper, and just...wo...Wow. Visiting from Sprite's Keeper, and just...wow. Fantastic post. You could practically flesh that out into a book.Keelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323783519078200647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-4428393242020457412009-01-09T17:24:00.000-08:002009-01-09T17:24:00.000-08:00Ouch, that is a rough one. Thank you for sharing i...Ouch, that is a rough one. Thank you for sharing it. It all shapes us into the people we are today though. I think it worked out okay in the end.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00873541253069090821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-88584482455996840562009-01-09T16:11:00.000-08:002009-01-09T16:11:00.000-08:00Hey, none of us live perfect lives. Sharing this ...Hey, none of us live perfect lives. Sharing this story sheds light on the character you are and how you've rectified this childhood event. I enjoyed this story very much. Thanks for visiting my blog.eganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03783658744477659987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-11295296637605530532009-01-09T13:25:00.000-08:002009-01-09T13:25:00.000-08:00Ohh, my heart aches for your 12 year old self, I t...Ohh, my heart aches for your 12 year old self, I think 12 is the worst age. You want to fit in, but sometimes the things you have to do to fit in are worse than not fitting in at all.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08269368593839340703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-27179484688289992442009-01-09T11:40:00.000-08:002009-01-09T11:40:00.000-08:00Heather - yes I did, and I actually attended an ev...Heather - yes I did, and I actually attended an evening speech of the author at a HS over here. i guess with the Pairs Hilton phenom type attitudes, things have gotten a lot worse.<BR/><BR/>kristan - hello there young lady.<BR/><BR/>Jack and BD - Heinious did a wonderful spin where he discusses learning and growing from events that make us feel guilty, ashamed, or regretful. And how it helps us to live in a way that causes less behaviors to feel guilty for.Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-47822423576292929742009-01-09T11:07:00.000-08:002009-01-09T11:07:00.000-08:00We've all done things like that we regret. That's...We've all done things like that we regret. That's what makes us grow.The Blonde Duckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00085499120024055465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-85957927990051913272009-01-09T09:48:00.000-08:002009-01-09T09:48:00.000-08:00I love this because I've lived it... haven't we al...I love this because I've lived it... haven't we all in one way or another?<BR/><BR/>Great post!!!Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10694572749056669250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-45734463393902953352009-01-09T09:40:00.000-08:002009-01-09T09:40:00.000-08:00Well you did a marvelous job.Well you did a marvelous job.Kristanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771013578685419826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-44768770454825469412009-01-09T09:22:00.000-08:002009-01-09T09:22:00.000-08:00Wow...have you ever read "Queen Bees and Wanna Bee...Wow...have you ever read "Queen Bees and Wanna Bees? (too tired to look up the spelling on that to make sure "that's" the title) But, basically that's what your group was....<BR/>How great are you though to be that safe haven for kids! <BR/>Great Spin woman!!!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15771817605498951179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-8769584383509763342009-01-09T06:40:00.000-08:002009-01-09T06:40:00.000-08:00smiles and VM- I think the hard lessons in life ar...smiles and VM- I think the hard lessons in life are probably the ones where we learn the most...Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-36611485385376928672009-01-09T03:42:00.000-08:002009-01-09T03:42:00.000-08:00That really moved me. As a mother, and a teacher,...That really moved me. As a mother, and a teacher, I know how kids can be. There are tough, tough lessons to learn- but these lessons shape who we are. <BR/><BR/>I loved the post. sniff. sniff.Vodka Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04734323418017847775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-78259733513649492982009-01-08T19:28:00.000-08:002009-01-08T19:28:00.000-08:00Wow! Another beautifully written post and one tha...Wow! Another beautifully written post and one that brought tears to my eyes. I think each one of us has been in those different positions...the one being picked on, the one doing the picking on, the loner, the leaders, the followers...ect. What is so awesome is that this is not just a story...it's a lesson you learned in your life that has made you the person you are today. Look at the lives you touch because of your willingness to share the lessons of your life. Thank you for sharing this story...you never know who will read this and have healing because of it. <BR/><BR/>And once again thank you for reaching out to those students at your school...you are their life boat. Don't ever underestimate the effects of your acts of kindness on those around you. You rock!Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04441204804740501624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-25138586789877248412009-01-08T19:17:00.000-08:002009-01-08T19:17:00.000-08:00Sprite's Keeper - well, thank-you. I really admir...Sprite's Keeper - well, thank-you. I really admire the teens that are strong enough t stand up for the underdog.<BR/><BR/>debbie- yes, we are the composite of everything we go through on the way, aren't we?Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-52290681232288309832009-01-08T17:14:00.000-08:002009-01-08T17:14:00.000-08:00What a sad story but look how it has made you such...What a sad story but look how it has made you such a fabulous teacher. Everything really does happen for a reason and I think of what a blessing you have been to the sad kids all these years.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17480046958714954128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-54983939047027043502009-01-08T17:11:00.000-08:002009-01-08T17:11:00.000-08:00You just opened the window into a teenager's soul,...You just opened the window into a teenager's soul, doing almost anything to belong and doing nothing because you want to keep belonging. Wow. I completely understand why you stayed silent. I think if anyone was in that position and didn't want the nastiness turned to them, they would do the same. You're linked and you're forgiven!Sprite's Keeperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00790341033920919000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-4155521561098490712009-01-08T16:57:00.000-08:002009-01-08T16:57:00.000-08:00SMB - why thank-you for the compliment. Yes, i do...SMB - why thank-you for the compliment. Yes, i do believe that we all have many stories and some we are proud of and some not so much. This year I have an autistic TA and a student with Asberger's. They hang out together in my room at lunch. some of the punky kids pick on them out on campus.<BR/><BR/>rhea and kristan - i pulled it up for the guilt spin, but it did happen 40 years ago, so although I breathed life into it to tell the story, it doesn't haunt me. it was hard to write and publish though, not a story i've told before.Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-55108668443612789012009-01-08T16:36:00.001-08:002009-01-08T16:36:00.001-08:00So, I was doing pretty good until the last paragra...So, I was doing pretty good until the last paragraph or two. Then the tears began to sting my eyes.<BR/><BR/>Really beautifully written -- and another piece I think you should refine into something to submit.<BR/><BR/>I hope you don't let it eat you up anymore, though. You were just a young girl.<BR/><BR/>(I admit, I feel really fortunate that I never dealt with things like this...)Kristanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771013578685419826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-6812837609302230002009-01-08T16:36:00.000-08:002009-01-08T16:36:00.000-08:00Oh, man. Man, oh, man. That's a rough one.Oh, man. Man, oh, man. That's a rough one.Rheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11027061380778030388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198460211087859887.post-3357336430553352792009-01-08T16:19:00.000-08:002009-01-08T16:19:00.000-08:00Wow! I loved the other posts you mentioned too bu...Wow! I loved the other posts you mentioned too but you have nothing to worry about. This was great. Which one of us doesn't have a story like this from their childhood that haunts them. Things you would do differently if you could. I love it that you seek that kid out now. Very cool!Smart Mouth Broadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12157189992200894945noreply@blogger.com