Sometimes I think we are here just to overcome our bad habits. The obstacles, the challenges, the suffering. It's all just a way to point us towards what we need to work on.
But that just might be me.
At any rate, Jen's spin topic this week is bad habits and I have such a wealth to choose from it's taken me a day or two to narrow it down.
I'll go with a bad habit that I actually have been working on for over 25 years.
Bad habit: interrupting others.
Goal: be a better listener.
When I first moved to Hawaii I did not realize the conversational habits that I grew up with were not the best. I come from a loud family where people interrupt each other constantly. Finishing each others' thoughts.
People in Hawaii are quieter as a rule, better listeners, more humble than the native LA crowd I grew up with...
The first time someone straight up told me I had interrupted him and it was not so much appreciated, I have to admit I was a little taken aback. Slightly offended. Did he not realize what a compliment it was that I was so excited about what he was saying, so excited that I knew where he was going, so happy to be able to not only finish his thought but add my own to it...
Yeah. I was THAT person.
When I realized it I decided I did not want to be that person.
However, it's not been easy. Bad habits are hard to work out of oneself.
So I have been working on being a better, more compassionate, listener for 25 years now.
Ironically, it irritates me to be around interrupters or conversation hoggers these days.
That's why I had to add in the compassion component.
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