Sunday, May 30, 2010

Summer dreaming

My "to-do" list for summer....

The Hopefuls
  • Go out on a boat. Maybe more than once.
  • Go kayaking (no, I do not count this as boating)
  • Have a not mentally ill mother (dear God, did I just say that out loud...)
The Regulars
  • Hiking
  • Body boarding
  • Snorkeling and shell collecting on the North Shore
  • Long walks with Border Collie
The Socializing
  • Have my women friends over for dinner / lunch / hanging out
  • Hang out on the beach with my friends. Talking. Laughing. Being.
The "Work"
  • Refashion and update blog
  • Work on writing project
  • Plan for next school year
The Vegging
  • The stack of books on the night stand
  • Whole seasons of net-flixed shows
The "Wouldn't it be Nice"
  • Get a scanner and organize old photos digitally
  • Take a beading class
  • Get a new camera and have fun with it.
  • Have a not mentally ill mother
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Seriously. Major mom issues.

Anyone know what to do with an 82 year old hoarder who refuses to allow anyone in her home, needs to go into assisted living, has no savings and a huge credit card debt, and ...

23 comments:

blueviolet said...

I'm hoping the mom issues are but a tiny, tiny portion of your summer. The rest sounds FABULOUS!

lakeviewer said...

Get your siblings to help you with mom. She needs help and she doesn't know it. Happy Days ahead.

Brian Miller said...

a great list...keep it in front of you...kayaking is amazing...so make sure you cross that one off...

sherri said...

wow. the mentally ill mom thing sounds heavy and I wish I had some words of advice or better yet, comfort. sending good thoughts your way for help your mom.

only a movie said...

I am sorry about the mom issues. I feel that my mom is not far behind. Yikes.

Wishing you all the relaxation and fun you can cram into this summer, my friend.

Captain Dumbass said...

Does she have insurance? A stealthy visit to remove any important family items and an "accidental" fire might do the trick.

Just an idea.

Sniffles and Smiles said...

Oh, my...I'm so sorry. Caring for aging parents is so tough! But your summer list is fabulous! Mind if I borrow some of your ideas? :-) Have a great Memorial Day! Love, Janine XO

ds said...

That is a great list of summer plans. Rosaria is right, though. Get someone (family, professional) to help with Mom. You shouldn't have to deal with her issues by yourself.

May you go on many boats this summer!

Joanna Jenkins said...

I'm sorry about your Mom-- I don't have any answers but I'm cheering you on as your sort through it.

The rest of your list is awesome.

jj

kyooty said...

Mom's do that

Just B said...

Perhaps our crazy, hoarding, crazy, havoc-causing, crazy, selfish, crazy mothers could room together.

No disrespect to your mother, of course.

Linda said...

Your To Do List sounds perfect! Many of those activities are on my list as well:) As for the Mom issue, I'm sorry you are having to deal with that and I hope you don't have to deal with it alone. My Mom lost her mind and doesn't know we put her in a home. It's very, very sad and depressing when you can't "fix" these types of things. Hang in there and enjoy the good days!

Maureen@IslandRoar said...

Your summer plans sound great, yet another instance I wish our islands weren't so far apart, so I could join you in some of it!
So sorry about your mom. I'm just starting to have some concerns about my parents down there all alone in Fl as they seem so much older and vulnerable. And on this end I'm suddenly full of so much resentment at them for the way we were raised. Hugs to you long distance, my friend!!

Kristan said...

I don't know what to do, no. But maybe add Bonesetter's Daughter to your list of reading, if you haven't read it already? The characters in that story are in a similar boat as you.

Christy (Columbia Lily) said...

i also have a hoarder mother, and it is very very hard. no advice though. =(

Hilary said...

I'm sorry about your Mom. I hope that you can find the help she needs. And that you get the help you need to cope with her situation. I hope you manage many of your to do list items and that you lose yourself in the fun ones.

creative kerfuffle said...

ah--i've got nothing on the mom front other than what everyone else has said. don't try to do it alone (get some siblings involved) and the fire idea wasn't such a bad thought. sad, when arson seems like a good idea.
i hope you get to cross all those good things off your list this summer. the scanning and organizing old pics? yeah---i started doing that last year, oy vey what a project.

gretchen said...

Why are all the things on my to-do list drudgery, and all the things on your to-do list are fun? Well, except for the crazy mother thing. Sorry about that. I'll be spending all my time this summer trying to entertain a 7 year old!

Mama Badger said...

Sounds like you're ready for professional help for your Mom. You need outside forces at this point. Not you or your siblings. Real outside forces. And not the kind that take money for you Mom to sit in their offices. Some sort of social services.

On the other hand, you summer sounds like so much more fun than mine!

Lynda Halliger-Otvos said...

Mama Badger is there with the response: You need "the clipboard lady" from Adult Protective Services. I live in northern California and we have an agency that will come and decide if the situation is safe and if it is not then they will force the issue. Your mom's circumstances can be reported and your name need never come up to your mom. You and the sibs can plead innocent and blame the State.

Works really well here in our 450 unit development where we have some of the WW2 shipbuilders still here and in as bad shape as your mom. Our manager says he gets about one a month and he is on a first name basis with the Clipboard Lady.

tulpen said...

Yeah, no answers on the mom stuff. good luck, good vibes and all that jazz.

I miss kayaking.. sigh...

Keely said...

No idea but...the REST of your summer sounds lovely!

Casey said...

You should put "do nothing" on that list too. Seriously, when are you going to get time to relax?

No idea on the mom problem... that is a tough one. Uhm, slip her a ruffee and drag her out of there? I don't know...